I have finally replaced the Bible I’ve had since 2005…with a Bible I’ve had since 2007. I wasn’t altogether willing to replace it, but seeing as it was being held together with tape, books in the back were falling out……..and the fact that I spilled hot coco on it last night, I figured it was time.

It’s for the best, I’m sure. I mean, I used to underline everything, and highlight it in garish colors. It’s a little embarrassing. It’s nice to start fresh….but I also dislike it. I knew where everything was in my old Bible. In fact, if I set it on it’s binding and let it open to where it wanted, it would easily fall to one of my favorite passages. I’ll miss that.

I finished watching Emma with my mom today. I really like how Emma’s character changes so much for the better. True, she’s not perfect in the end, but at the beginning she’s almost detestable. By the end she’s humbled and much more kind. And Mr. Knightly is a wonderful hero. He, too, has his faults, but is mostly virtuous.

There was a discussion on facebook about how romance novels were to be avoided, because it gives us false hope for the future. There were several people who said that these novels gave too high of expectations. Maybe they’re reading different books than I am — and if they’re referring to the likes of Twilight, then I agree: but something like Emma gives a fairly good portrayal of a relationship, I think. Alright, sure, I admit that she ends up with a rich, attractive husband…but she’s not perfect, and neither is he. They have parent’s and friend’s approval. They both grow for the better through the story, impart because of each others’ influence. …right? I don’t see why that is giving false expectations. Or, at least, not for a critical reader. Sure, if you’re the silly sort of girl who reads and expects that now a rich “sparkling” man should come sweep you off your feet, then you’re mistaken, but I like these stories.

Besides, let’s look at the romances in the Bible! Isaac and Rebecca, for example — Rebecca trusts a servant’s word and goes to marry this unknown man who just happens to turn out to be rich and handsome man! Or Solomon and his (presumably) first wife, depicted in the Song of Solomon — not every man is going to be so…lavish and poetic in his praise, ahaha. And Ruth? She went to Boaz (a rich older man!!) in the middle of the night (!!) and LAY AT HIS FEET to show that she wanted him to be her kinsman redeemer! And Esther? Who took a year to be “beautified” and then spent the night with the king before they were married? ……if we read this in a romance novel put in this day and age, we would call it scandalous. And these are just the examples I’ve thought of off the top of my head. OH! Jacob and Rachel! He worked FOURTEEN YEARS so that he could marry her. This is devotion.

So why is it that some people think today’s novels have high expectations that make us girls wait for the perfect guy? The Bible has huge expectations for guys — that they be poetic, rich, and work for fourteen years for us. Ok obviously I’m using hyperbole, but ahhh I don’t know. I enjoy a good romance….who doesn’t?! And, who’s to say I shouldn’t hold out for the perfect guy for me? I’m not saying he needs to be rich; that’s not important to me. I would feel ridiculous if he showered me with poems, and would be appalled if he thought I needed to “be prepared” for a year before I was presentable…but I have faith that God will bring me someone perfect for me — or no one at all.

I’m ok with this.

I’m more than ok, I’m content, even happy to wait.

But…also, I want to be married. I wish it didn’t, but this verse keeps floating to the top of my thoughts — “It is not good for man to be alone”.

I have faith in my Father, that He knows what’s best. I really do.

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